"What the Living Do" Letter
In an interview on NPR (that you can find HERE), poet Marie Howe discusses writing about her brother’s death. She describes how shortly after his passing, she was writing poems all day long and at a certain point, she stopped and decided to write a letter to her brother instead. What came of that was her poem “What the living do.”
What the Living Do
Johnny, the kitchen sink has been clogged for days, some utensil probably
fell down there.
And the Drano won't work but smells dangerous, and the crusty dishes
have piled up
waiting for the plumber I still haven't called. This is the everyday we
It's winter again: the sky's a deep, headstrong blue, and the sunlight
the open living-room windows because the heat's on too high in here and
I can't turn it off.
For weeks now, driving, or dropping a bag of groceries in the street,
the bag breaking,
I've been thinking: This is what the living do. And yesterday, hurrying
wobbly bricks in the Cambridge sidewalk, spilling my coffee down my
wrist and sleeve,
I thought it again, and again later, when buying a hairbrush: This is it.
Parking. Slamming the car door shut in the cold. What you called
What you finally gave up. We want the spring to come and the winter to
pass. We want
whoever to call or not call, a letter, a kiss — we want more and more and
then more of it.
But there are moments, walking, when I catch a glimpse of myself in the
say, the window of the corner video store, and I'm gripped by a cherishing
for my own blowing hair, chapped face, and unbuttoned coat that I'm
I am living. I remember you.
For this writing exercise, write a letter to someone or something you have lost. This could be a friend, lover, partner, or your former, younger self. What would you say to that person if you just called them up casually and told them the mundane details of your day? What might you complain about? What might you realize?
Write for at least 20 minutes.
Let your words flow, see where they lead you, and just keep going with whatever comes to your mind. Let it out, without judgment. Remember to give yourself permission!
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Liz Burke-Cravens, EdD